Sunday, 29 March 2015

Mirror Mirror

I’ve been listening to Abraham Hicks recordings for several years now. I’ve heard them say many times that we all make way too much of all of this. That all we need to do is pay attention to our own vibration, our own energy, our own inner state. Do what you need to do to feel good or at least better than you do right now. Think what you need to think and believe what you need to believe to feel as good as you can in every moment. That is all you need to do. The rest will sort itself out. Each time I heard some version of this advice, part of me resisted the hearing of it. Part of me pushed against the simplicity of it, the elegance of it.  Do I really have that much influence over the intricate workings of the Universe that my inner state could bring about changes in the non-physical world? And even if I could believe that, could I believe that those changes could manifest in the physical world? Could it be true? “Oh no no, what manner of sorcery is this?!”, thought my browbeaten ego.

In the meantime life has taken me from one end of the earth to the other. I’ve interacted with people from all over the world. I’ve made friends and lost friends. I’ve found myself in all-consuming romantic entanglements and found myself spending long periods in solitude. I’ve discarded old beliefs and adopted new ones, discarded the new ones and created my own. I’ve fallen down, picked myself up, reinvented, redefined and refined my thoughts, my beliefs, myself. That is to say, I’ve lived. None of this makes me special or in any way unique, it makes me human. Not all of this has unfolded in a state of awareness or presence, but enough of it has to leave an impression, no, more than an impression, a knowing.

What I’ve come to know is this. We have been mislead. We have been taught to be kind and generous and to show love toward each other in a way that is unlikely to achieve this purpose. We have been fooled into believing that sacrifice and martyrdom is noble and godly. Somehow we got it into our heads that to show love and compassion toward others means that we have to take onboard their pain as if it is our own, that we have to share in their sadness or anger and join them in their suffering. We misunderstood the act of mirroring the body language of another to win their favour, to also include the mirroring of their inner state. This all makes sense if you have no understanding of the vibrational world in which we live. But even with some understanding of vibration and energy and the field of life that lies beyond the five physical senses, we can too easily overlook the nature of true connection, of true love and compassion.

Words and gestures are fairly blunt instruments when it comes to connection. The real workings of human interaction are taking place at a deeper level, at a quantum level, at the level of vibration and energy exchange. And so I ask you this, what is the quality of the vibration you are offering your friends and your loved ones and the world around you?

Do not allow yourself to be nothing more than a reflection of that which is happening around you. Though others may not understand and may even see you determination to maintain a high level of vibration as selfish or self-centered, trust that your inner dimensions will be experienced by others at a deeper level and in a way that offers the greatest benefit and the truest healing.

Though in truth, no other benefit or reward is necessary when you make the decision to do and think and believe what must be done and thought and believed to raise your vibration and maintain it’s expanded dimensions, because it feels good to feel good. What more is there to want for? All that will manifest as a result of your inner state will be the icing on a cake to be enjoyed and shared.

When trying to successfully interact with the world around us, fathoming just the right words to say and just the right gestures to make at just the right time is a complicated business and far too often a dismal failure. But when we focus rather on expanding and maintaining our own inner dimensions, then the right words and the right actions will emerge effortlessly from within. And if you still find that part of you resists this idea as too self-centered, then trust that the brighter your inner light the more chance it has to ignite in others the hope and healing they most need.

It is that simple and that elegant, and finally I understand what Abraham Hicks meant when they suggested that we were all making way too much of all of this.

Wednesday, 4 March 2015

Beware the Bonnet Bees!

“For pity, sir, find out that bee
Which bore my love away.
I'll seek him in your bonnet brave”

- from “The Mad Maid's Song”, 1648 by Robert Herrick.


There is a phrase in English “To have a bee in your bonnet” which loosely means to be preoccupied or obsessed with an idea. Though within the context of this article I’d say that “obsessed” may be too strong a word. However, we all have ideas of things we’d like to do and see and experience and explore. Some of them may be acceptable to discuss in polite company, and others may include sexual fetishes or other private thoughts we’d feel less inclined to admit to thinking about. Maybe you've always fantasized about playing the guitar or maybe you've always fantasized about being playfully spanked by your lover during foreplay. There are more extreme examples, but I’d prefer not to distract the reader from the real point of this piece. The more of these unexpressed and unexplored bonnet bees we have in our heads, the louder and more disquieting their buzzing.

It seems to me that the average adult goes through life with a head full of bees. If you asked them why they have not yet explored these ideas or found a way to express them, they’d supply you with a long list of excuses. Usually including, but not limited to, “I don’t have time”, “I don’t have the funds”, “What would the neighbours say?”, “No one would understand”. I’m certainly not suggesting acting immediately upon every impulse, but what I’m talking about are ideas that you've had buzzing around in your head for years and years. Sometimes they buzz very loudly and sometimes their buzzing is drowned out by more immediate concerns, but they seem to be persistent and not going away on their own accord any time soon.

At some point in my journey the “Silent Observer” or “Still Awareness” or “Higher Self Perspective” or whatever you want to call it became dominant. This has over the years given me the opportunity to observe my thoughts and the general movement of energy within me with a certain degree of objectivity. What became apparent to me is that these bonnet bees that go unexplored and unexpressed for years begin to cloud over our potential for clarity and a greater sense of well-being. They are more destructive than most people realize.

In terms of the energies we hold within our bodies, these too can feel unbalanced by interactions which have been left incomplete or unfinished. I think we've all experienced situations where we are connecting deeply with another and are suddenly interrupted and the interaction is cut short. That uncomfortable feeling of the energy exchange being left open-ended and incomplete. This is a small example, and in reality energies can be left unbalanced within us from circumstances far more complex than an interrupted conversation. I’ll give you an example that many people would be able to recognize in today’s digital world. Though interacting and connecting online has opened up the world in countless sublime and extraordinary ways, there is a level of energy exchange that occurs when you find yourself in the same physical space as another that does not seem to be able to be achieved digitally. It may cost the price of an air ticket to meet in person, but I assure you the balancing of that particular energy within you will be well worth the effort and expense.

My point is that we should not underestimate the negative impact bonnet bees have on our sense of well-being. If it is not harmful to ourselves or others, or illegal or in opposition to our beliefs or higher knowing, then don’t wait. Find a way of exploring, expressing and releasing your bonnet bees. The clarity and inner spaciousness that will emerge when those pesky bees are exorcised is delicious and more than worth any effort or expense or twinge of embarrassment that may accompany the releasing of them. You may very well find that after your first guitar lesson or spanking that this particular activity is not for you after all. That is okay, at least the bee is dead and the absence of it’s incessant buzzing will be replaced by a greater sense of clarity and inner peace.